During a recent evening out, a close friend suggested the concept of “self-preservation” as it relates to both personal and business matters. She went to some effort to point out that I could devote a little more time to examining my own needs as should every smart person in today’s business culture. I stared, taken aback, across the table at this person asserting her opinions as if she knows me. Ok, she actually does know me. But admittedly, my initial reaction to her slant was a little judgy. How selfish of any adult, parent, or business woman (or man) to think of his or her own needs first, right? I was raised in a home where we were taught to put others first, do more than our share, embrace moderate martyrdom.
How was I to reconcile my own definition of selfishness with her counsel? Did I even want to?